I didn’t even hear the sound of her falling into the pool, but I saw her start to sink.
I was three feet away, watching her use a plastic shovel to draw out water to fill up her bucket.
It was chill, nothing to worry about, and then she lost her balance.
One second is all it takes.
No “survival instinct” kicked in. There wasn’t a frantic struggle to rise up.
She kept sinking.
I was there by her side and able to grab her immediately.
She shook it off within a few seconds, and I jumped in with her to swim to avoid a negative association with the water.
And to teach her we don’t live in fear.
But it was a startling moment even though I was one second away from her.
Because not everyone is this fortunate.
It only takes 30 seconds for a child to drown in 1 inch of water.
Am I giving my kid too much screen time feeding her the right foods being attentive enough without being too attentive and potty training them soon enough without being overbearing and vaccination schedules and play time and what will happen when she grows up and is sugar bad should my baby be Paleo?
Like a good parent I went to all of the check-ups.
Not once did our doctor, who is the best in the world, go over the dangers of drowning.
And this doctor is incredible, caring, and surely he would if he thought about it.
When we think about “health,” we worry about feeding the right food and whether a cough is a cold or something more.
Isn’t lifestyle of a child part of health?
“Drowning is responsible for more deaths among children 1-4 than any other cause except congenital anomalies (birth defects).”
Why isn’t every parent told about the dangers of drowning?
“Kids in a pool are the worst calls you can ever receive.”
A police officer once told me that the worst calls he’s ever had to answer dealt with childhood drowning.
There’s the death of the child, he explained, and the guilt.
“The guilt never goes away,” he told me.
The guilt never goes away.
Rich or poor, it can happen to you:
As Morgan was chatting and enjoying a tea, she recalled Emeline walking between where the mom was sitting and the guest bedroom, where the other kids were playing — “which was all of 15 feet,” she noted.
“And, all of the sudden, it was just too quiet for me,” Morgan said. “We were mid-conversation, and I just stood up, and I turned, and I walked right to where the boys were, and I said, ‘Where’s Emmy?’ And before Nate could respond, I turned around the door that leads to the backyard — that was closed — had this tiny sliver of light coming through the side.” She recalled, fighting back tears, “And my heart sank, and I opened the door, and she was floating in the pool. And I ran, and I jumped in.”
People are going to call her a bad parent, because how else do you accept that this could happen to you?
People will try to use this article against me, even though I was by my daughter’s side and alert the entire time.
“This can’t happen to me, it must have somehow been the parents fault.”
What drowning (doesn’t) look like.
The new captain jumped from the deck, fully dressed, and sprinted through the water. A former lifeguard, he kept his eyes on his victim as he headed straight for the couple swimming between their anchored sportfisher and the beach. “I think he thinks you’re drowning,” the husband said to his wife. They had been splashing each other and she had screamed but now they were just standing, neck-deep on the sand bar. “We’re fine; what is he doing?” she asked, a little annoyed. “We’re fine!” the husband yelled, waving him off, but his captain kept swimming hard. ”Move!” he barked as he sprinted between the stunned owners. Directly behind them, not 10 feet away, their 9-year-old daughter was drowning. Safely above the surface in the arms of the captain, she burst into tears, “Daddy!”
How did this captain know—from 50 feet away—what the father couldn’t recognize from just 10? Drowning is not the violent, splashing call for help that most people expect. The captain was trained to recognize drowning by experts and years of experience. The father, on the other hand, had learned what drowning looks like by watching television. If you spend time on or near the water (hint: that’s all of us) then you should make sure that you and your crew know what to look for whenever people enter the water. Until she cried a tearful, “Daddy,” she hadn’t made a sound. As a former Coast Guard rescue swimmer, I wasn’t surprised at all by this story.
Drowning is almost always a deceptively quiet event. The waving, splashing, and yelling that dramatic conditioning (television) prepares us to look for is rarely seen in real life.
Read this article. It might save a life.
Children drown when they aren’t swimming.
Maybe you’re staying at a hotel or friend’s house.
Maybe the screen door doesn’t catch.
Maybe a door looks locked when it isn’t.
Maybe your child had a sudden intellectual growth spurt and can pick locks.
Maybe there’s a tear in the fence.
Danger hides in maybes.
A check list.
Lock the doors, and then push / pull on the door to ensure it’s locked.
If there’s a fence around the pool, take a manual inspection. Are there any tears or weak points?
Start swimming lessons early. We go twice a week as we live in a coastal area. Plus it’s good bonding time. You can’t have a smartphone on in the pool!
Focus on the big risks.
As parents we are told to agonize over every decision, yet studies have shown that unless you are truly an awful parent, you don’t have much control over your children. They are going to become who they are.
Don’t get me wrong. Read to them and all of that. (I read to mine before bed every night.)
But this agonizing over whether 30 minutes is too much time in the iPad, or whether they watch too many cartoons, is doing to drive people bonkers. (Watching cartoons is all I want to do as a kid. Then I got older and started reading.)
The major risks in life start to swirl around with the Perfect Parenting Model.
Some risks matter than others.
Should your kid watch an iPad for 30 minutes or 1 hour starts to seem as significant as stuff that will really hurt them.
- Are the doors locked? Did you double-check?
- Is there a pool nearby?
- Is the pool fully enclosed?
- Does your child know how to swim?
Drowning is the number one cause of death for children under 4.
Say it again, Drowning is the leading cause of death for children under 4.
The parenting mindset means you should focus on what has huge upside, and what has huge downside, and prioritize them accordingly.
Yes, as a parent, “Everything matters,” but some things matter than others.
Always remember and never forget, “Drowning is the number one cause of death for children under 4.”
Stay safe out there, and check out these resources:
Bill Clinton on Jeffrey Epstein Island, Victim Claims
Former President Bill Clinton was seen with two women on Jeffrey Epstein’s “pedophile island,” according to Virgina Roberts.
The relevant except says:
When you say you you asked him why is Bill Clinton here, where was here?
Roberts: On the island.
JS: When you were present with Jeffrey Epstein and Bill Clinton on the island, who else was there?
Roberts: Ghislaine, Emmy, and there was two young girls that I could identify. I never really knew them well anyways. It was just 2 girls from New York.
JS: And were all of you staying at Jeffrey’s house on the island including Bill Clinton?
Roberts: That’s correct.
He had about 4 or 5 different villas on his island separate from the main house, and we all stayed in the villas.
JS: Were sexual orgies a regular occurrences at the island of Jeffrey’s house? Roberts: Yes.
You can read the document implicating Bill Clinton with Jeffrey Epstein here: pic.twitter.com/5igNwmjM4y
— Epstein Files Unsealed by Cernovich (@Cernovich) July 31, 2020
Bill Clinton is directly implicated by an eyewitness in the Jeffrey Epstein sex trafficking ring.
Six references to Bill Clinton in Virginia Roberts' chat with her lawyers on April 7, 2011:
Asked about Epstein boasting "Bill Clinton owes me favors," Giuffe said:
"Yes. I do. It was a laugh though. He would laugh it off… I didn't know if he was serious. It was just a joke." pic.twitter.com/InugMgHOz5
— Adam Klasfeld (@KlasfeldReports) July 31, 2020
Jim Jordan Sells Out Conservatives to Big Tech (Read the Confidential Memo in Full)
Labelled “Confidential,” the Jim Jordan Memo is something you’re not supposed to see.
Cernovich Media has obtained this Memo and is posted it in full.
Read the Jim Jordan Antitrust Memo here:
Highlights of Jim Jordan’s Antitrust Memo
- The Memo gives Republican talking points needed to defend Google, Apple, Amazon, and Facebook.
- The Jim Jordan Memo is clear. Zero antitrust action against Apple, Google, or Amazon will be supported by the GOP, and the memo is loaded with talking points defending Big Tech’s monopoly power.
- “Even if this hearing suggests that Google, Amazon, Apple, or Facebook have acted unlawfully, that would not necessarily mean underlying antitrust law needs an overhaul.”
Watch my Video Report of the Jim Jordan Antitrust Memo here:
I obtained the GOP’s confidential antitrust memo for tomorrow’s hearing. It’s a direct betrayal of conservatives. https://t.co/i3S5VfSW66
— Reclaiming My Time Cernovich (@Cernovich) July 29, 2020
Cigars, Networking, and Mentorship
My brother Dr. Melvin Armstrong Jr. and I will be hosting a private event for his non-profit, which pairs at-risk teens with mentors. (Get tickets here.)
Ticket includes dinner, cigar, and upscale conversation in a fantastic venue.
Come out, ask me anything, hear some talks, and vibe. If you’ve attended a previous event, you don’t need a hard sell. (And frankly these tickets will go fast as we are capped at 20 people.)
If price is an issue, keep in mind that 100% of ticket sales will go to Dr. Armstrong’s non-profit and contributions are tax-deductible. (As always get with your accountant with receipts.)