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I didn’t even hear the sound of her falling into the pool, but I saw her start to sink.

I was three feet away, watching her use a plastic shovel to draw out water to fill up her bucket.

It was chill, nothing to worry about, and then she lost her balance.

One second is all it takes.

No “survival instinct” kicked in. There wasn’t a frantic struggle to rise up.

She kept sinking.

I was there by her side and able to grab her immediately.

She shook it off within a few seconds, and I jumped in with her to swim to avoid a negative association with the water.

And to teach her we don’t live in fear.

But it was a startling moment even though I was one second away from her.

Because not everyone is this fortunate.

It only takes 30 seconds for a child to drown in 1 inch of water.

Am I giving my kid too much screen time feeding her the right foods being attentive enough without being too attentive and potty training them soon enough without being overbearing and vaccination schedules and play time and what will happen when she grows up and is sugar bad should my baby be Paleo?

Like a good parent I went to all of the check-ups.

Not once did our doctor, who is the best in the world, go over the dangers of drowning.

And this doctor is incredible, caring, and surely he would if he thought about it.

When we think about “health,” we worry about feeding the right food and whether a cough is a cold or something more.

Isn’t lifestyle of a child part of health?

Drowning is responsible for more deaths among children 1-4 than any other cause except congenital anomalies (birth defects).”

Why isn’t every parent told about the dangers of drowning?

“Kids in a pool are the worst calls you can ever receive.”

A police officer once told me that the worst calls he’s ever had to answer dealt with childhood drowning.

There’s the death of the child, he explained, and the guilt.

“The guilt never goes away,” he told me.

The guilt never goes away.

Rich or poor, it can happen to you:

As Morgan was chatting and enjoying a tea, she recalled Emeline walking between where the mom was sitting and the guest bedroom, where the other kids were playing — “which was all of 15 feet,” she noted.

“And, all of the sudden, it was just too quiet for me,” Morgan said. “We were mid-conversation, and I just stood up, and I turned, and I walked right to where the boys were, and I said, ‘Where’s Emmy?’ And before Nate could respond, I turned around the door that leads to the backyard — that was closed — had this tiny sliver of light coming through the side.” She recalled, fighting back tears, “And my heart sank, and I opened the door, and she was floating in the pool. And I ran, and I jumped in.”

People are going to call her a bad parent, because how else do you accept that this could happen to you?

People will try to use this article against me, even though I was by my daughter’s side and alert the entire time.

“This can’t happen to me, it must have somehow been the parents fault.”

What drowning (doesn’t) look like.

Drowning doesn’t look what what you see the movies:

The new captain jumped from the deck, fully dressed, and sprinted through the water. A former lifeguard, he kept his eyes on his victim as he headed straight for the couple swimming between their anchored sportfisher and the beach. “I think he thinks you’re drowning,” the husband said to his wife. They had been splashing each other and she had screamed but now they were just standing, neck-deep on the sand bar. “We’re fine; what is he doing?” she asked, a little annoyed. “We’re fine!” the husband yelled, waving him off, but his captain kept swimming hard. ”Move!” he barked as he sprinted between the stunned owners. Directly behind them, not 10 feet away, their 9-year-old daughter was drowning. Safely above the surface in the arms of the captain, she burst into tears, “Daddy!”

How did this captain know—from 50 feet away—what the father couldn’t recognize from just 10? Drowning is not the violent, splashing call for help that most people expect. The captain was trained to recognize drowning by experts and years of experience. The father, on the other hand, had learned what drowning looks like by watching television. If you spend time on or near the water (hint: that’s all of us) then you should make sure that you and your crew know what to look for whenever people enter the water. Until she cried a tearful, “Daddy,” she hadn’t made a sound. As a former Coast Guard rescue swimmer, I wasn’t surprised at all by this story.

Drowning is almost always a deceptively quiet event. The waving, splashing, and yelling that dramatic conditioning (television) prepares us to look for is rarely seen in real life.

Read this article. It might save a life.

Children drown when they aren’t swimming.

Maybe you’re staying at a hotel or friend’s house.

Maybe the screen door doesn’t catch.

Maybe a door looks locked when it isn’t.

Maybe your child had a sudden intellectual growth spurt and can pick locks.

Maybe there’s a tear in the fence.

Danger hides in maybes.

A check list.

Lock the doors, and then push / pull on the door to ensure it’s locked.

If there’s a fence around the pool, take a manual inspection. Are there any tears or weak points?

Start swimming lessons early. We go twice a week as we live in a coastal area. Plus it’s good bonding time. You can’t have a smartphone on in the pool!

Focus on the big risks.

As parents we are told to agonize over every decision, yet studies have shown that unless you are truly an awful parent, you don’t have much control over your children. They are going to become who they are.

Don’t get me wrong. Read to them and all of that. (I read to mine before bed every night.)

But this agonizing over whether 30 minutes is too much time in the iPad, or whether they watch too many cartoons, is doing to drive people bonkers. (Watching cartoons is all I want to do as a kid. Then I got older and started reading.)

The major risks in life start to swirl around with the Perfect Parenting Model.

Some risks matter than others.

Should your kid watch an iPad for 30 minutes or 1 hour starts to seem as significant as stuff that will really hurt them.

  • Are the doors locked? Did you double-check?
  • Is there a pool nearby?
  • Is the pool fully enclosed?
  • Does your child know how to swim?

Drowning is the number one cause of death for children under 4.

Say it again, Drowning is the leading cause of death for children under 4.

The parenting mindset means you should focus on what has huge upside, and what has huge downside, and prioritize them accordingly.

Yes, as a parent, “Everything matters,” but some things matter than others.

Always remember and never forget, “Drowning is the number one cause of death for children under 4.”

Stay safe out there, and check out these resources:



Is “Kung Flu” the latest Media Hoax?



Several White House reporters confronted Trump regarding his decision to call the coronavirus (or COVID-19) the China Virus.  One reporter asked him about a White House administration official who is alleged to have called the coronavirus Kung Flu.

When the reporter was asked the name of the official, the reporter said she didn’t know.

The original claim regarding Kung Flu comes from CBS reporter Weijia Jiang. On March 17th, she Tweeted:

This morning a White House official referred to #Coronavirus as the “Kung-Flu” to my face. Makes me wonder what they’re calling it behind my back.

Ms. Jiang has not identified the official.

One reason could be because this official does not even exist.

Under American defamation law, you can lie all you like.

You can’t lie about a person by name.

If no White House official called the coronavirus Kung Flu, or if there is some important context missing, then Jiang could be sued.

You can watch the Kung Flu exchange in this video here:

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The Stafford Act Text Message Announcing an Emergency Quarantine is a Hoax



By now you or someone you know has received a hoax text announcing martial law. With some minor variations, the texts all read the same:

  • In 48 to 72 hours the president will evoke what is called the Stafford act. Just got off the phone with some of my military friends in DC who just got out of a two hour briefing. The president will order a two week mandatory quarantine for the nation. Stock up on whatever you guys need to make sure you have a two week supply of everything. Please forward.


The National Security Council issued a rare public statement warning the public that the Stafford act text was a hoax.

How can you tell the Stafford Act Text is a Hoax?

Even if you refuse to accept the NSC’s word on the matter, the text message has some telltale signs of a hoax.

First, the text promises secret insider knowledge. “Just got off the phone with some of my military friends in DC who just got out of a two hour briefing.” This is a vague enough proclamation that it sounds plausible.

Second, no specifics of these friends are given. Who are these friends? Why did they call this specific person?

Third, the hoaxers ask you to spread the message. Why would anyone acting in good faith want to incite a panic?

If an emergency quarantine were able to be declared, the plan would be Top Secret. No one’s friends would just get out of a briefing and start alerting people. THEY WOULD GO TO PRISON FOR LEAKING CLASSIFIED INFORMATION.

If such an emergency plan were in the works and higher command wanted the story to get out, they’d leak it to a credible outlet. Not share chain-letter style text messages.

There’s also tradecraft involved in sharing classified information.

None of the telltale signs (and no I won’t share how to leak classified secrets here) were present in that alert.

UPDATE: Other outlets are now reporting that the Stafford Act text is a foreign disinformation campaign:

The Trump administration is alleging that a foreign disinformation campaign is underway aimed at spreading fear in the country amid the coronavirus pandemic, three U.S. officials said Monday. On Sunday, federal officials began confronting what they said was a deliberate effort by a foreign entity to sow fears of a nationwide quarantine amid the virus outbreak.

Agencies took coordinated action Sunday evening to deny that any such plans were put in place, as they tried to calm a nation already on edge by disruptions to daily life caused by the virus.



Read More about Mike Cernovich here.

Who is Mike Cernovich?

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How Trump Drafted Google into the War Against Coronavirus



Elvis Presley served in the Army after he was drafted, and in American history it was common for celebrities to serve their country during times of national crisis. Noblesse oblige, or the duty the noble and rich owed to society, arouse perhaps out of morality or maybe simple self-preservation. If you’re getting while the getting is good, giving something back goes a long way to avoid class resentment.

Those thoughts were perhaps on Trump’s mind (or more likely his instinct) when he announced that Google was taking massive action to help America fight the coronavirus.

Google at first pushed back at the suggestion that it, a nearly trillion dollar mega-corporation, actually doing something to help the users it profits from.

Why should Google help save lives? Why should Google do anything other than operate as an amoral, blood-sucking corporation that violates user privacy and exploits children?

The media bros were quick to rush to save Google. Poor Google! They were being bullied by the ORANGE MAN BAD.

Google’s media errand boys like Jake Tapper and others were quick to publish stories attacking Trump for suggesting that Google actually do something.

Some like your humble correspondent Mike Cernovich saw right away was Trump was doing.

Trump was drafting Google into the war against coronavirus.

Google, whatever its motivations, answered the draft.

Public pressure must intensify.

The corporations make billions of dollars a day by spying on users.

The least they can do is use that data to find out where coronavirus hot spots are, share that information with the CDC, and get information shared with the sick.

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